Loving Women Who’ve Had Abortions

I posted this on my personal Facebook Saturday because I kept seeing quite condemning posts regarding those who have had abortions. I hoped by posting it, there would be a stirring in people’s hearts to think about the person on the other end and consider that every statistic is an actual person; a person God loves. It’s so easy to beat people up and assume when we do not know their full story. I hope this blesses someone. See the post below.

Helping Women Who’ve Had Numerous Abortions (Love, Compassion, & Providing Solutions)-Testimonies.

So part of what I do is deep inner healing and helping those who suffer from severe cases of PTSD, DID, Bipolar, Schizophrenia using faith based methods. Over the years I have encountered numerous women who aborted children. For those who ask or say , “How could someone do this? This is murder!! This person is sick,” I wanted to share some testimonies and maybe provide some insight into the mind of the woman who is more than a number.

First God loves that person deeply and His forgiveness, love, mercy, and grace is available to everyone-not just the people Christian culture deem worthy.

I love that Jesus was moved with compassion and healed the sick, not moved with rage so He picked up stones to beat them to death. Jesus sees the heart and reasons why people do the things they do.

In every single session with a woman who had an abortion or many abortions there was DEEP rooted pain, shame, hurt, and for some deep roots of self hatred. One woman told me when I asked her why so many, “I am not fit to be a mom. I thought they would be better off without me, without the struggle, without the pain of having me as their mom. I wanted men to love me so I gave myself away. They abandoned me when they found out I was pregnant. I could not bring a child into my dysfunction.” You may be screaming “Birth Control!” Yet the only 100% full proof birth control is abstinence. We live in a culture that promotes the easy hook up without every truly talking about the consequences. If a person believes the only way to be loved (which is really lust), is to give themselves away physically, then you see patterns of forgoing abstinence.

Some of the women were married and aborted their children because they could not afford another child or were told their child would be severely impaired. We can scream adoption, trust God, yet until we sit across from someone in agony-well I think prayer, compassion, love, and helping people find solutions is a better option than judgement.

I am pro all lives. I also have seen the flip side of children in foster care, abandoned into abusive situations, or born to parents who abused or trafficked them. What can we do to protect children once they are born?

A common thread was woven through those deep inner healing sessions; fear (what will people think), lack of support, shame (we got pregnant outside of God’s boundaries), a health concern, self hatred and lack of God esteem, financial concerns, and feeling there would not be anyone to help raise the child.

I have watched women break down in agony over their choices. Some were told by partners they would be abandoned if they kept the baby and they had no financial means to do it alone. Some were in abusive relationships and did not desire to see their child abused. Some felt they would find shaming instead of love/support/help in the church or communities of faith.

Sometimes it takes a long time to get women to forgive themselves, receive forgiveness from God, and invite God into those deep wounds. Restoration is possible and God’s heart.

I believe God wants to see people healed. I believe God wants us to know how deeply we are loved so we can love our neighbor, our children, ourselves. I believe God wants our communities of faith to be places where people can turn with their fears, issues, and find love instead of more pain. Do we tell the truth, yes. Do we point to Jesus, yes. Do we love people and cultivate safe places, YES!

What if instead of fear of backlash for being real and sharing weaknesses with people of faith, people wanted to run into the communities of faith in crisis.

Some of these women were severely abused as children or adults, dissociative, struggled with mental/emotional problems, or were currently with an abusive partner. One woman aborted her child with her husband because he forced himself on her and was highly abusive, unfaithful, and she could not bring another child into that situation. She has currently escaped him, yet there was great pain there. Yes forcing yourself on your marital partner is still rape and wrong. Paul stating the body of the spouse should not be withheld was addressing new converts in the community who wanted to practice abstinence after converting to Christianity and they were married. He stated physical intimacy belongs within covenant. He was not giving a license to force your spouse into physical intimacy.

My hope with this post is to provide some insight from someone who has the honor of partnering with Jesus to see the rebuild or aftermath of the hurt soul. I have not encountered one woman in a session proud of her choice. Not one. I have seen agony, fear, and someone who deeply needed God’s profound love.

All after receiving soul healing, which went far deeper than surface issues, they chose to never have another abortion.

I think the goal of God is connection, reconciliation, and for the world to know Him. I also believe God longs to heal, forgive, redeem, and restore.

May we love!

Photo: Pinterest

Warmly,

Erin Lamb

Follow Jesus Not Culture

Happy Pursue God’s Kingdom! ❤️

I love the teachings and lifestyle of Jesus. I don’t always enjoy Christian culture. They don’t always match. Sometimes the focus in culture is not what Jesus focused on at all. Paul and the teachings of Paul are sometimes elevated above Jesus. Paul is the most misquoted and misunderstood author of the New Testament. Paul stated, “follow me as I follow Jesus”-not “follow me instead of Jesus.”

Things Jesus talked about and demonstrated the most: loving God & loving each other (including enemies), the Kingdom of heaven (seek first God’s kingdom), our heart conditions, helping people, discipleship (go make disciples), the nature of the Father, intimacy with the Father, eternity, how to know the Father, what it is like to be His family, and development of leaders who could duplicate what Jesus did.

Things I notice focused on in Christian culture: tithing, marriage, come to church more than be the church, men are the head/wives submit, supporting your local church/pastor, how to get God to bless you, only a few have opportunities to lead or use gifts, development of followers/spectators instead of leaders.

I highly prefer the focus of Jesus. His methods produced disciples who shifted Nations. They did not just fill buildings, they made an impact for generations.

When God is pursued first and most, the rest falls into place-we give because we love God, we support ministers because we love God, people are better spouses when they love God…our focus matters. Sometimes things whispered in the Bible are shouted in culture and they are the secondary thing. Sometimes culture and a misunderstanding of scripture is promoted above the teachings and lifestyle of Jesus…especially the teaching on submission.

The highest things are have no other gods besides God, love, and seek first God’s Kingdom.

May we grow to know Jesus and abide in Him! True Christianity is focused on knowing God and abiding in Him!

Love,

Erin Lamb

P.S all books and audio teachings are on sale today for Valentine’s Day. Go to https://www.empowered-free.com/shop. Use the coupon code: Love2019

Operation God is Love

We hit year 7 next month! Wow how time flies.

When I prepare bookbags and sammies for our homeless friends, I pray over each one that the person will feel the love of God, encounter God’s heart, and feel seen by God.

One man we met grabbed a bag and could not stop hugging it. I asked him why. He replied, “I am getting some good vibes off this bag.” He would not stop smiling and hugging the back pack.

I saw him months later riding his bike through the city. He stopped me. He said, “Thank you for my bag and the things inside. I have been reading what you gave me and it blessed me. Thank you!” Once again his face filled with a loving smile.

Love is this incredible force that says, “I see you. You matter. You are significant. Your life is not a mistake. You have infinite worth.”

I would love to tell you I am always excited to go. I am not. Sometimes I am tired physically, emotionally, or mentally. I think I have nothing to give here. Yet feelings are not truth. In those moments when we press past our comfort zone something magical happens. People encounter God’s love through us. God is simply looking for a partner, a conduit. He loves to love through us.

It’s not about me or the team. It is God’s love through us. If we can do it, anyone can do it. From the ones who say, “I thought no one cared and I planned to kill myself today,” to the ones who say, “Before you stopped me, I was on my way to shoot up on heroine,” to the ones who say, “I have not eaten in days.” There is Jesus walking amongst the least of them whispering over and over, “I see you and you matter. You were worth dying for and I LOVE you.”

So you set aside your feelings or even uncertainty about reaching out to strangers. You get low and sit with the hurting, broken, bruised, abused, victimized, forgotten, lonely. You wrap your arms around the addict, the prostitute, or the PTSD suffering veteran. You pursue honor for the ones who smell like urine, booze, or vomit. You hold hands with another human being and declare, “You have a friend in me.” You listen to stories, songs, and poems even. You wipe tears, and try to provide hope for the hopeless. You ask God to flow through you so someone encounters Jesus.

The sick are often made whole through His love and power. The suicidal change their minds. The addict finds comfort. The invisible are seen.

You see Jesus in the faces too ashamed to cross the threshold of a shiny church. You do what you can and sometimes weep because you wish to do more.

We cannot do everything. We can do something. If I can, someone who tests 78% for introversion, anyone can. Why? Because love compels us to do more than talk about problems. We become part of the solution. I believe the church, not solely the government is called to social justice.

Here is a snap shot of our team today! Youth to young adults out serving the least, last, and lost.

Operation God is Love #LoveLooksLikeSomeoneJesus

First Photo: Pinterest

Love,

Erin Lamb

Found of Operation God is Love

OperationGodisLove.org

Don’t Miss Out on Confident & Free 2019

I would love to see you in May 2019.

We are devoting two full days to pouring into attendees! We have so much goodness planned. The early bird rate ends Feb 2nd, 2019. Here’s your sweet reminder.

Check out the tentative schedule.

I hope you join us. Have an amazing weekend.

Registration for Confident & Free: Confident & Free 2019 (You can also read speaker bios here).

Coupon Code: EarlyBird

Warmly,

Erin Lamb

Our Reactions to Evil Matter (Pursuing Authentic Christianity)

Today I want to tackle reactions to evil in the world. When Jesus walked the earth there was evil, injustice, mistreatment of people groups, and he faced hatred/mockery/mistreatment.

We see Jesus responding in sternness to the self righteous (Pharisees) and the disciples. We see compassion for those who were lost and not claiming to be right with God.

Jesus also has a one up on us. He was sinless. Jesus was willing to die for the same people He rebuked sternly. He was willing to be mocked, beaten, and even killed for the UNGODLY! Jesus died for His enemies. If Jesus rebukes someone sternly, He is perfect in His assessment and without any sin.

We can sin in our attempts to deal with people and be puffed up in ourselves while doing so. “Oh, I think sister Susie is wrong, let me grab my bible and go point it out to her.” Is it wrong to try to help someone? No. Yet the bible tells us to make sure we don’t have a big mega plank in our eye before we go trying to pull a splinter out of someone’s eye. We are also told to be gentle. We can be gentle, direct, and not nasty. Is it wrong as a leader to address people? No. Yet if we do not love them, our words can be correct and in the wrong spirit.

It is a trap of the evil one to convince us that we are the Holy Spirit or Jesus. We point to God. We do not become God.

It is a trap of the evil one to respond in the same spirit as the evil of this age. We overcome evil with good. If someone comes at us crazy, it does not mean God gives us permission to act crazy.

God has tested this in my life over and over. It appears as weakness to some people. Yet I do not need to yell or act crazy because someone approaches me with ignorance, hatred, evil, or nonsense. We can rebuke and address in great love understanding that the spirits of this age blind people to the truth of who God is.

They do not believe, because their minds have been kept in the dark by the evil god of this world. He keeps them from seeing the light shining on them, the light that comes from the Good News about the glory of Christ, who is the exact likeness of God,~2 Corinthians 4:4 (GNT).

Imagine going into a house and the lights are off and everyone is blind. Your method to help is to scream at them, “You are blind. You are in the dark!!!” Guess what, your screaming will not make them see. You can scream all day and it adds no value.

Imagine going to a graveyard and everyone is dead. You walk around screaming the Gospel at them. They can’t hear you! Dead people do not hear or see. The only reason a believer in Jesus can see or hear is because God opened blind eyes, deaf ears, and revealed Himself.

You were dead because of your sins and because your sinful nature was not yet cut away. Then God made you alive with Christ, for he forgave all our sins,~Colossians 2:13 (NLT).

One of the ways we can help the world is by actually living a life that is a living testimony of the goodness, love, and power of God. I had several coworkers who were atheists, agnostic, or other faiths inquire about Jesus because of the way I acted at work. I did not bully them with the bible, point out everything they did that violated scripture, nor look down on them. I looked for ways to serve them, love them, and the topic of Jesus would just come up. One went to church because he said he could not figure out why I had so much joy. My Muslim neighbor said I was the only Christian he had encountered that did not mistreat him. One of my atheist coworkers hurt her back and because I did not mistreat her, she let me pray. God took all her pain away.

Imitate God, therefore, in everything you do, because you are his dear children,~Ephesians 5:1 (NLT).

The world has heard our sermons. Have they seen Jesus through us?

Do we respond to evil with the Spirit of Jesus? Do we see people God loves and desires to redeem? Or are we like the Pharisees, our hands are full of heavy stones and we are crying out to God to punish them? I will tell you sin alone is great punishment. Without Jesus, people will have ledgers marked with every sin. Do we care about their souls or just the way they treat us?

We also don’t need to beat people up with the bible. I saw this old movie years ago called Saved. It basically mocked Christians for hypocrisy and improper methods of evangelism. I have included a very short clip of the groups attempt to lead Mary back to Jesus. This involves beating her with an actual bible. The Gospel is Not A Weapon . It’s worth watching! It is about 5 minutes long.

I am not stating we condone sin.

I am not stating we condone immorality.

I am stating the way we deal with people can be part of the determining factors on whether they turn to Jesus or run from Him.

I am stating if we don’t live what we claim to believe it impacts the world. All of creation is groaning for sons and daughters of God to rise up and shine bright (Romans 8:19-23)!

We do have a small role to play. If we are hypocrites, hateful, only love people who are a certain way, then we demonstrate to the world that our God is that way. It misrepresents Jesus to the world.

Let’s look at what Jesus said (Luke 6:32-36 (AMP)

If you [only] love those who love you, what credit is that to you? For even sinners love those who love them. If you do good to those who do good to you, what credit is that to you? For even sinners do the same. If you lend [money] to those from whom you expect to receive [it back], what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners expecting to receive back the same amount. But love [that is, unselfishly seek the best or higher good for] your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return; for your reward will be great (rich, abundant), and you will be sons of the Most High; because He Himself is kind and gracious and good to the ungrateful and the wicked. Be merciful (responsive, compassionate, tender) just as your[heavenly] Father is merciful.

Expecting people who don’t know Jesus to act like Jesus, is like asking a person who cannot swim to compete in Olympic swimming. They can not. We cannot. Unless we have the Spirit of God we will not manifest the likeness of His character.

Honestly, I have met numerous people in my lifetime in churches who claim Jesus and look and act nothing like Jesus. I have had some of them yell at me, leave my fellowships, act hateful and nasty because I actually taught them what Jesus said. I could write a mega book on mistreatment from professing believers. Shouting “Praise the Lord,” on Sunday and gossiping about you on Monday. I will not even unpack the prejudice, jealousy, competing, pettiness, sexism, sabotage, and racism that I have encountered with professing Christians.

My point is as follows, to expect the world or people who do not know Jesus to flow in tune with God is unreasonable. It is also unfair if we (Christians) are not willing to submit to God to act in ways that actually look like God and then tell others they need God. It confuses the world when the Gospel we teach is not the Gospel we live.

How we react to evil is important. We do not condone it. We do not agree with it. We also do not stoop to low levels of conduct and act in ways unbecoming of Jesus to deal with it. If we were committing evil or out of line, how would we want to be treated? Would we want to be cussed out and condemned? Or would we want someone to say, “I love you and there is a better way?”

I love that even the rebukes of Jesus come because He longs for us to be right with God. Sometimes I think in culture its about us being right and not about the person being right with God.

Love is who God is and how He operates. I appreciate every rebuke and correction of God. Mainly because when God corrects it is to restore. When people do it, sometimes (not always), it is simply a critical spirit or pride. It lacks love, lacks compassion, and lacks tact. A critical spirit can seem like discernment, yet it’s not. God reveals to heal and so we can intercede or help. A critical spirit is rooted in pride and loves pointing out the flaws of others while rarely seeing it’s own flaws.

I am praying I walk in authentic Christianity. Rather than pointing the finger at others, I am asking God to help me walk out authentic faith. When people encounter me, I hope they walk away saying, “I want to know the God you worship,” not “Oh my gosh, get this person away from me. Whoever they worship must be a flake or a freak.”

I actually had a conversation with God Sunday about the way the church represents Him. I put myself in the shoes of someone completely unchurched. Would I desire Jesus just based on my encounters with believers over the years? Other than my parents and a handful of people, well, probably not. Yes, I have met some amazing people, yet as a whole (the summary of my life in Christiandom) have seen a culture that loves those who are already on the path better than the sinner. I would not feel comfortable as a way out there sinner coming into a community of faith. I would not feel comfortable as someone who was labeled liberal or alternative. I would not feel safe. How can I say this? Because I have spent my life in churches and seen the way “outsiders” are treated by a good chunk of people. The person can be a “get them saved project” or “be nice to them only at worship gatherings-ignore otherwise.” Gosh, I have encountered people who withhold love from other Christians because they go to another church or align with another political party. I have seen some pretty amazing believers too, yet as a summary-just my thoughts, we can do better.

I think we (I) can do better by abiding in Jesus (John 15:4-5). We can pray for revival all day, yet if we are not revived internally and begin to actually manifest Jesus, I do not think we will positively impact the world. I hear people chant, “They just need to get saved and come to the church.” Yet, how are we going to treat them when they get there? Is anyone going to mentor or disciple them? Is anyone going to genuinely love, invest, and treat them like Jesus would? We want these millions of souls to come to know Jesus and join our churches, yet have we learned to love the people already right in front of us?

Love is the highest standard. God speaks truth in love. The devil will tell the truth in the wrong spirit to hurt people or inappropriate times to create issues. If you don’t believe demons and the devil can speak truth, read the passages where demons cried out Jesus was the Son of God and He silenced them because it was not His time (Luke 4:41), or the slave girl who followed Paul around speaking truth from the wrong source (Acts 16).

Bottom line-we overcome evil with good.

Do not be conquered by evil, but conquer evil with good,~Romans 12:21 (CSB).

Love,

Erin Lamb

Ask Questions Instead of Assume

Jumping to conclusions is not wisdom. I know because I have lived it. We see with our lenses and depending on the vantage point, our perspective may be off.

We also live in a culture where people can be highly and easily offended. Ego is high and social media can increase the boldness of offended people.

I think it can be dangerous to read things online or social media and form an opinion about who we think the author is or the true intent of their message.

It’s dangerous to accuse, or to set ourselves up to be the Holy Spirit for them. I have encountered this numerous times posting online, blogging, or social media (mostly it’s social media). People get an idea of who they think you are, and what they think you mean. Some try to be Jesus for you…and it’s dangerous to jump to conclusions, to become offended with limited understanding.

My prayer, for myself and others, is to stop assuming and jumping to conclusions. Only God sees and knows everything. We don’t. We can always ask questions too; “You said or wrote this, this is what I think you meant, is it? I want to understand.

I highly recommend questions, though it can cause great vulnerability. Instead of accusing. There can also be a statement such as, “I perceived your actions or words to be this.” It does not always help because the person can respond defensively, “How could you think this of me?” Well, the goal is communication. If someone takes the time to try to understand, they care about you. People who don’t care just walk away.

Notes on Reading Posts Online:

A person can think a post is about them and it’s not. A person can think they know where a person stands politically and they don’t. A person can think God has assigned them to be the Holy Spirit for others and He hasn’t.

Pride is present in quarreling and offense. Pride is a nasty monster that keeps the world looking for flaws in everyone else but self. It amplifies the flaws of others and minimizes it’s own sin. It’s incredibly self righteous.

My prayer is God continues to deal with me so I can continually lead by example. I learned to stop commenting on others pages when I disagreed. I pray and keep scrolling.

Pride is A Nasty Monster:

Thinking our opinion is always needed is pride. Sometimes the very best thing we can do is pray and leave people alone. I am not saying let your friend walk around with spinach in their teeth. I am saying it’s not always necessary to start debates with people.

I had someone connected to me who was exhausting because the person never listened and loved debating. They believed they were right about everything and became highly defensive when anyone spoke something they did not agree with/condone. It was mentally exhausting. I knew if I did not agree and vocalized non agreement it would lead to a long, long, freakishly long debate and measures to try to convince me why they were right.

One day God saved me by having someone call the person so they had to get off the phone with me. I could not get a word into the conversation. I, honestly, avoid conversations with this person or keep it simple. Why? I don’t have time for a 3 hour debate every time I see someone.

Sometimes people assume non agreement with their ideas means non agreement with them as a person. They only feel validated when everyone is on the same page. We can disagree with people and love them. We can disagree and still like someone. It is false we all need to think the same about everything. I may love coffee, you may hate coffee. That does not mean I hate you.

In a world so easily offended, we can try to not be a statistic. We can ask questions and not jump to conclusions. The devil will most likely tell you the most negative version of the story. He is not positive. He also loves pride and won’t lead a person to humble themselves.

Here is a bonus segment from Patricia King’s new show Women on the Rise. The topic is offense and I shared a short segment on identifying offense and overcoming offense.

Identifying & Overcoming Offense: https://youtu.be/QM4iPri-KIQ

You are so deeply loved!

Erin Lamb

Confident & Free Speakers Announced!!🎉🎉

These are the speakers & panelists for the first annual Confident & Free Event in Columbus,Ohio!

Erin Lamb, Laurie Coffman, Dr. Sandra Weppler, Hilary Lynne, Patti Navis Hathaway, Kristin Reeg, Shannon Hair Hodges, Jeana Borkholder, and Lynn Jones.

There will be three keynote speakers (top row), three activation speakers (middle row), and additional panelists (last row). Worship will be led by Lanita and CJ Gaul. They are absolutely wonderful prophetic worshippers. Prophetic Art will be done by Velma Butler.

We will have 2 panel discussions; One focuses on breaking out of limiting beliefs/legalism/religious mindsets. The other focuses on hearing from God, testing what you hear, true seer gifting, discernment, and growing in the prophetic.

Excited to give these ladies an opportunity to share their heart and experiences with growing in godly confidence and freedom. It’s a journey with Jesus.

Hope you join us for prophetic worship, soaking time, teaching, activation (you get to do something-not just watch), mentoring, Q/A time, and hear about how God is transforming the world through ordinary people called to extraordinary things!!

We all get to play as John Wimber would say.

We will also have areas where you can learn more about ending human trafficking and get involved in missions.

Men are welcome & encouraged to attend!!

Right now registration is discounted with an early bird rate of $89.

You may register at https://www.empowered-free.com/book-online.

You may also read speaker and band bio’s via the link above.

Warmly,

Erin Lamb