Keys to Understanding the Racist & Racism

Things to Note About the Racist/Racism:

  1. That person is deeply insecure. You are not looking at a confident person. You are looking at someone who subconsciously struggles with self esteem, love, compassion, and truly liking themself. Therefore, racism is a tool of self preservation and ways to mitigate subconscious feelings of inferiority. Someone must be inferior to feel good about oneself. It is rooted in insecurity, not confidence.
  2. It’s been indoctrinated into many people and they may speak out racist things without even realizing it’s racist. I have seen this in relationships with people. They have to tell you the ethnicity of a non white person who does something, especially if it’s a crime. If the person is white, the race is ommitted. You see this quite a bit on the news.

I was at an art museum with a lady once and there was a painting of a somber black man. She mocked him, “Oh the plight of the black man.” She also later remarked how so many minorities starting coming to her church and now it wasn’t like her church anymore. She saw no issue with making these statements, yet they were manifestations of her being taught racism.

This person was not a confident person. She was insecure. She would not label herself racist, yet her words demonstrated how she saw non white people as “other”. She also expressed fear of reverse racism.

She had been indoctrinated to believe all the negative stats about people of color. I have gone through this my entire life. People say they are not racist, yet because of media and education, they say things that are rooted in racism.

One big fat lie is that all minorities are poor or ignorant. So when they run into minorities who are not poor and highly intelligent, that person must be the anomoly. Well no, the successes in science, engineering, math, medicine, education, and advanced fields are normally hidden about minorities. Crime stats from poor neighborhoods are amplified, not the stories of those changing the world for the better. The movie Hidden Figures shows how contributions of highly intelligent non white people are buried.

I have been this skin color my entire life and know an abundance of non white people who are not poor, come from two parent homes, own businesses, have money, are not beggars on the street, are successful, and intelligent. These types of people do not make the news nor are they talked about much or at all. American history focuses on Harriet Tubman, Dr. Martin Luther King, and Rosa Parks. The inventors, scientists, engineers, artists, world record breakers, millionaires, business owners, etc….are ignored unless it’s Oprah or a sports person.

  1. The racist fears retaliation. This has shown up the past few weeks with my posts on history. There are people who think the goal of non white people is to seek revenge. When you do people dirty, there is a fear they will do it to you. I have heard numerous people say, “We cannot let ‘those people’ have power, they will do horrible things to us.” Well, last I checked none of our Presidents have been assasinated by people of color, our mass shooters of white people have not been people of color, our serial killers and perpetrators of genocide have not primarily been people of color. Brown and black people have been the targets of mass murder.
  2. Racism is about bullying and pushing others down to prop oneself up.

I saw a video of a lady shove a Native American lady and tell her to go back to her country. The native woman looked at her like she was crazy. She said, “My ancestors were here before yours.” The woman got slapped for starting a fight, then played the victim.

Another lady verbally assaulted a 15 year old girl and yelled, “My ancestors owned yours.” She kept yelling racial slurs. Since when is being a human trafficker something to be proud of at all? It’s shameful, NOT a badge of honor. I think I may have responded, “You are proud your ancestors were kidnappers, rapists, brutalizers, and human traffickers. Wow! I am going to pray for you. That is not an insult to me. That speaks of the depravity of your ancestors.”

  1. Those who feel guilt or shame about racism do not want to talk about it or it’s impact. The goal is to pretend it is not an issue and move on from there. You will be encouraged to forgive and not talk about racism. This is not how healing works. Therefore, I find it best to chat with people who have experienced racism and discrimination. I liked one protest sign that read, “Justice, then reconciliation.” God is not just the God of forgiveness, and mercy, He is the God of justice.
  2. People know racism is wrong, because they do not want to be treated that way. Jane Elliot is a hero in the area of being anti racist. She asked a group of non people of color if they wanted to be treated the way society treats black people. No one raised their hands. She said, “So you know they are treated differently and wrong. You cannot claim ignorance. You just do not want to be responsible for changing the way people are treated.”
  3. There are degrees of racism. A person with racist ideas can have friends or a spouse of a different ethnicity. They can claim to be a Christian. The lady I mentioned above with the art museum claimed to be my friend for years. I have had people who claimed to love me and all people say quite racist things.
  4. Though it can be challenging not to take it super personal, understand many people do NOT know history. Since there is ignorance on what truly transpired or parts of history taught in schools are lies, people are responding to what they know. They do not know America promised certain Native tribes land, then took it back once gold was found there. They do not know many American presidents owned slaves and frequently raped them. They do not know about Sunday lynchings. They do not know America had concentration camps like Germany. They do not know the government sent rioters into black neighborhoods to burn them to the ground. They do not know how many natives were scalped and killed for land. They do not know about Jim Crow, mass incarceration, gentrification, red lining neighborhoods, voter suppression, wealthy black neighborhoods burned to the ground and looted by the Klan and angry racists. They do not know people of color have fought for every single right, some even to the death. They do not know Lincoln did not truly want to free the slaves. He wanted to ship them to other nations with nothing. Nor do they know slave owners were compensated for their loss of slaves, while slaves were given nothing. After hundreds of years of free hard labor, breaking of families, forced sexual acts even with men and children, being brutalized, terrorized, and forced submission to horrendous treatment-they were told to just make it on their own. Many were chased down once freed and put in a concentration camp. Being black, alive, and sane in America is a freaking miracle!!! It is a miracle to not be in a corner rocking somewhere. Praise to God.

Understand the history books do NOT tell the whole story and in many cases minimizes the severity of the treatment of people of color.

Lastly…

Racism fuels the ideas that there are separate races, whites are superior to everyone else, white is innocent/normal/the standard, and black people are at the bottom. These are all lies. These lies were all made up to justify killing people, taking land, and to support human trafficking. Their roots are evil and greed based.

There is only one race, human. God pulled all the colors and groups out of the African. Scientists have proven that the black African woman has the only DNA that is capable of producing every single skin color we see. She is also the oldest found human remains. To hate the black African is to hate oneself, for we all got our start in Africa.

Racism came first, then race categories. It was set up that way to perpetuate slavery and taking land. The history books are written with a racist slant, media and stats are set up to reinforce the lies, and culture is built upon the lie. The judicial system is set up to give harsher sentences to minorities. Even the repainting of brown Jesus as white helped to build the lie. We have all been told lies and unless we fight against them, then they will keep being passed from generation to generation.

Resources:

Watch the documentary 13th
Read White Fragility & White Rage
Read How to Be Anti Racist
Read They Came Before Columbus
Read The Color of Law
Read The Battle on Wounded Knee

I hope something here helps someone. I highly recommend studying history. I have angered people for telling them what truly happened. I asked my 96 year old relative about his experiences. We need to know what truly transpired to not only heal, so we do not end up there in the future.

Warmly,

Erin Lamb

Parable of the Four Sons

The Parable of the 4 Sons (What we see depends on where we are standing)

There were 4 sons who lived on a farm with their dad. They each loved to play and could get quite rowdy at times. They loved adventure, climbing trees, and throwing rocks down by the creek. Sometimes they would get dirty and their clothing would demonstrate how elaborate their adventure was for the day.

They would come home at days with dirt filled grins. Their father was a firm believer in cleanliness. He would stop them at the door and demand they take off their mud marked shoes before entering the house.

The one son he would brush the dirt off his face, give him at atta boy for being his son, offer him extra soap and towels and send to the shower.

The second son he send to the shower with no praise, no affection, and no extra soap.

The third son he completely ignored. That son was accustombed to simply following his brothers and showering after them.

The fourth son he took out back and beat him, called him names, and then sent him to shower.

Over the years the boys noticed that their joy in play diminished. Two of the brothers (the ones mistreated) did not enjoy their adventures as much any more. The fourth son seemed stressed, depressed, and had been slipping at school. He eventually skipped out on play all together to go be alone. He knew his punishment for play would be severe. He would slip into the house unnoticed. He simply wanted to survive his childhood.

As time moved on the boys grew up and left home. The fourth son was eager to leave. His body and his heart still had scars from the abuse he suffered as a child. He found there were safe places out in the world, yet there was still trauma in his soul.

He met a young lady who was a writer at university. She explained to him that writing was therapeutic. She encouraged writing his story. The fourth son knew his story would paint his father in a bad light. He pondered for months what to do. He decided telling the truth was the way to go. He wrote his book A Fractured Lens and it became a national best seller.

His family became enraged! How could he do such a thing. His father worked so hard to provide for them!! His father was an upstanding Christian man!!! His other brothers had no complaints. He had to be making it up and just venegful and ungrateful. If his father did whip him, he must have deserved it. The town turned on the fourth son and told him to never return. The first and second son came to their father’s defense. They said their father was the kindest man they knew. They tried to find stories to discredit their brother. The third son remained quiet. While he did not know the benevolent father the other two sons knew, he also did not know the extreme abuse the fourth son knew. So, he slid into his corner to bypass any confrontation.

Fortunately for the fourth son one neighbor saw his brutal whippings. She would sneak out of her home to tend to him with first aid. She saw the rage, the anger, the pain the fourth son suffered. She stood as an ally for him. The fourth son still had marks on his body from the abuse.

Teachers in the town after reading the book felt great sorrow because they failed to see the writing on the wall. The fourth son lost interest in play, constantly looked down, came to school sometimes bruised/looking defeated, and never liked going home. They could not fathom just one of four being abused and the father was so charming with everyone else. They did nothing to help.

The father read the book, knew what he had done, yet wanted to have the story removed from every bookstore. He should be forgiven and not have his dirty laundry out there. He wanted stories told of how he treated his other sons, the ones he loved. He wanted his church attendance on record. He wanted to be painted as a hero.

The fourth son refused to remove his book from shelves. He received countless letters from people with similar experiences finding healing in the book. They were too afraid to tell their stories, yet the fourth son told his. He began to fight against abuse of children.

When asked if he regretted telling his story, he replied, “No. I suffered greatly as a child and bearing my untold story has caused greater suffering. I am healing. Others are healing too because they recognize they are not alone.”

My take/why I wrote this:

The moral of the story is people can live in the same house or the same country and have different experiences. It is challenging to see a different perspective. I meet people who cannot see nor refuse to listen to someone else’s experiences. Especially if those experiences paint their beloved ideals or a person/place they love in a bad light.

Our vantage point and experiences matter. The neighbor who helped the fourth son saw the violence, she had a different response/perspective. The first and second brothers did not see the violence and because they were treated far better they were upset for any complaints. The father knew he was abusive, yet wanted to hide his sins instead of confess them and address them. The fourth son carried the story, scars, and the trauma. The third son did not see the abuse, yet knew his father treated the first and second son better than him. He remained silent.

I meet with clients who have been severely abused by people others put on a pedestal. They go to church and abuse their family. They have great jobs and abuse their family. You cannot tell an abuser just by looking at them and looking at how often they go to church.

There are people in America who are treated differently based on whether they are poor or rich, black or white, belong to certain groups or not. When I meet with the homeless, they are treated FAR worse than other people.

Pointing out issues in an area also does not mean that all is bad. It means there can be improvement. The neighbor could have reported the abuse, the father got help, and the family healed. The father could have read the book, confessed his sins, and reconciled with his son. He refused due to pride. The third son could have stepped up to say, “I am not an eye witness for abuse, yet my dad did not treat me well either.”

It’s hard to walk in another person’s shoes. It’s an honor if God gives us the opportunity to do so.

Photo: bthornephotos (Flikr)

Warmly,

Erin Lamb

Is the Church Helping or Hurting the Spread of the Gospel? 


Sweet friends, I am going to dig into some issues tonight because I want us to think about them, pray about them, and examine the question, “Are we representing God (Yahweh), the true Gospel of Jesus Christ, or trying to bully the world into thinking our way? Do we only love some people or everyone?”
Addressing the spirit of religion…

Sometimes the “Christian” way of thinking is not God at all. It is the spirit of religion which is oppressive, demeaning to women, hateful to those who are different or do not agree, full of control, legalism, pride, bullying, self righteousness, and manipulation. It is more concerned about being “right in it’s own eyes,” than loving thy neighbor. It’s void of agape love (unconditional, sacrificial, unselfish love). It is void of Jesus. It is antichrist. It is brutal. If you stand against the spirit of religion, or the idols behind it you may receive a tongue lashing or beating. 

If you do not live in America or do not know Jesus, please do not use the American church as the standard for what God is like. Look to Jesus. He perfectly represents the Father. Please open your bible and examine Jesus. He is still working on His Church so she loves like Him and follows Him. God loves you. 

Please do not allow the behavior of some unloving/misbehaving “Christians” to run you away from God. There are some incredible people who love Jesus and represent Him well in the western church, there is still room for improvement in the body of Christ overall. We are growing in maturity, hopefully. 🙂 

The aftermath of Election 2016…

Some of the evangelical church and charismatic church seemed to back one candidate and demonize the other and anyone who did not agree. It was okay to hurl insults, slander, gossip, dishonor, break friendships, verbally lash people, have a nasty attitude, and act like a crazy person all in the name of God. 

I want you to know God is not a manipulator or control freak. God is also not rude or spiteful. He is not the author of confusion or a lunatic. 

I have yet to see God try to guilt or bully me into doing something. He comes in love then allows me to choose. The devil is pushy, controlling, manipulative, arrogant, selfish, and gets very angry when he does not get his way. There were people who told me, “You need to vote for this person because this person had a prophesy. If you vote for that person, well you are going to hell.” No, I test all prophecies, and I need to pray and seek the Lord for myself. 

I am not a part of group think. I am following Jesus. People are not God. If we truly trusted God, bullying and manipulation would not be needed. Also regardless of the candidates positions, we are called to imitate Jesus. The nastiness that has been spewed out by some believers has been just as bad as the world. We are called to be salt and light. 

God is not a bully… 

We see in the Garden of Eden God gave Adam and Eve a choice. He told Adam not to eat from the tree of good and evil, yet Adam and Eve could still choose evil. 

I have been floored by the lack of God love from some believers during and after this election. I even went to God, “How do you feel about women, brown/yellow/dark brown people, foreigners…because some of Your children make it seem as though You only love some people. Please help me to understand. Please help.” My entire life I was taught God loves everyone. This election, some of the church sent the message, “God loves certain people. If you agree with us then He loves you. If you don’t, then you are not loved.” My views are attatched to the Gospel, to Jesus. Yet I did not feel the need to demonize anyone. Neither candidate stood as Jesus, nor represented fully His heart for the world in my opinion. And it’s not just over political views. This election brought out the inner bigot/racist in some people. What was hidden under praise the Lord surfaced in, “Those people.” 

I am being quite sincere in sharing my thoughts. At first I thought internally, “Do not put your thoughts out there.” It has gotten me pretty beat up by Christians in the past. Then I thought, ” Let them beat me because someone needs to say it loudly, ‘Refusing to love is sin. If you hate anyone, you can not claim to love God (1 John 4:8).’” Withholding love and apathy is a form of hatred. If we can watch another suffer and say, “That’s not my problem,” our love tank is running low or empty. Jesus loves everyone. If we lack love or compassion, we can not put that on God. 

You may be thinking, “How could you think this way, America just had 8 years under Obama. Hidden Figures is bringing in the money at the box office. Women are empowered. A woman ran for President. We are all one big happy family.”  I can say this as someone who walks around with tan/light brown skin and as a female; racism and sexism are still a problem in the world and it is still an issue in the global church. Not just racism or sexism, but the lack of love or honor for anyone who votes differently or has a varying opinion. If you do not believe me, scroll through some Facebook or Social Media or even church tv programs, look at the comments. I dare you to disagree with someone on an issue. 

Let me take out my bible and slap you senseless with it. I bet you feel stupid now.” And the Christian who proved to the internet or world how much Bible they know, just wounded a bunch of people and made God look like a unloving bully. Not sure how that makes people want to know Jesus, but it happens. I have encountered it over and over. 

I have athiest and agnostic associates who were driven away from God and the church by an unloving church and unloving Christians. I have had seasons in my own life where I have said,”God I love You, yet some of Your children are so very mean or unloving. Can I please have a pass not to fellowship today?

Hateful, unloving, apathetic Christians affect the spreading of the Gospel. The “I am saved. I can treat people how I want. You can’t judge me, there’s no condemnation for me,” is impacting the lost. Why seek a God with followers who are hateful and unloving when you can find some acceptance in the world? 

God is love…

Are we loving the world? Are we drawing people to Christ by our actions or repelling them? 

I have heard people say, “I have not seen any issues,” so that means the issue does not exist. Well, sweet friends, America and the entire world has a long way to go to represent Jesus as He is. I am sure He is not enjoying the fighting, offense, slander, judging, racism, sexism, I hate liberals, gossip, self righteousness, I’ve had enough of “those” people, beating people with the bible, lack of love, celebrating the suffering of another person, etc…He said very plainly, “As I have loved you, love one another. The world will know My disciples by their love. Love your enemies.” 

Jesus did not say you will know My followers by their opinions or political views, or their denomination or country of origin, or their skin color, nor by their church attendance or tithing. You can go to church and still go to hell. 

A country and world in need of an agape love revolution…

This election brought out the boil on the bottom of America we refused to acknowledge. We have some deep spiritual problems that need addressed in the church. While pointing a finger at the world, we have three pointed back at us. Do we know Jesus? We need Jesus. Are we representing Jesus?  We have some idols that need cast down. Some of them being politics, politicians, self, patriotism, and church leaders. Loving people and sharing the Gospel is far more important than who they voted for. 

We have some heart issues that need healed and mended. There is no amount of legislation that can fix heart issues. We need Jesus. There is still a void of agape love from the church for the world. There is still a void of receiving God’s love. We can only give away the love we have received. 

Ditching those people need Jesus…we all need Jesus. 

Oh those people, they just need Jesus!” We all need Jesus. Did you (we) love “those” people? “Well ‘those’ people are hurting our country or they are reprobate.” Are we sinless? Did we perfectly represent Jesus today? If not, we can put down our bible billy club and thank the good Lord for mercy. 

Not sure why, yet sometimes being saved leads to abounding self righteousness and pride. It is “us” vs. “them”. Do we forget no person was born saved? Do we (the global church) care about the spreading of the Gospel and loving our neighbor or just promoting our ideals and political agenda?

America the Melting Pot…

 “Those people need to go back to their country.” Well, America had inhabitants before European settlers arrived here. They were Natives, Mexicans, and some Africans. Some of my ancestors were on this land before it was “discovered.” 

America is a melting pot of immigrants. If you are not Native, slamming other ethnic groups and telling them they do not belong is childish. I believe in due process of citizenship, yet many ethnic groups including Europeans migrated to America. So if everyone has to go back to their country that leaves some Natives, some Mexicans, and a few Africans to stay. 

Are we loving the ones God sends…

Please come to our church, pay tithes, serve, and if you get out of line we are going to beat you senseless with the Bible and withhold love. Oh, and you need to think like us and vote like us or you’re going to hell.” Sounds harsh right. Yet I have seen it. I have experienced some of my worst verbal assaults, betrayals, heartaches from “Christians.” Singing and clapping on Sunday, cussing me out or talking crazy on Monday. On a positive note,  I thank God for the loving Christians there are in the world and this country. I pray we all have deep encounters with God’s love. May the global church be known by the agape love of God. 

Ditch us vs them…

In our world there are so many categories of them. Do we care about “them” or is it, “That’s their problem. Give me my Starbucks and leave me alone. I will pray for ‘them.’“Yet that is not the love Jesus showed the world. He did not say to the Father, “Forget them. They sinned. That’s their problem.” Jesus died for all even the most wicked of sinners. There was no “them” to be left behind or cast aside or ignored. What if God treated us the way we treat the world?

Is the church ignoring or mistreating the very people Jesus came to die for? How would Jesus treat “them”. 

I prefer we are all one race of people, human. Men and women have equal value to God. The foreigner and the native born are uniquely and passionately loved.

I stand with Jesus! 

God SO loved the world…

It is not enough for the church to love the unborn. We need to love the person right in front of us. We need to love the Native, the African, the Mexican, the South American, the Canadian, the Chinese, the Japanese, the Middle Easterner, the Indian, the Greek, the Norwegian, the Russian, the Australian, the British, the whole world! 

It is not God bless America and no place else! It is God bless the world! The entire world!! 

The Gospel of Jesus Christ is everyone but Jesus has sinned and is in need of a Savior. Jesus gave His life for ALL. Repent (change your mind about sin), confess your sins to God, believe Jesus is the Son of God, ask Him to be Lord of your life. Do not stop there, follow Jesus! Do what you see Him doing. He loved the least, last, lost! 

God loves the whole world! 

May born again believers not only know the Gospel, but abide in Jesus to live the Gospel. Jesus loves the world! John 3:16. The lost need to see Jesus in us the hope of glory. 

Bless you, 

Erin Lamb