Confident people tend to treat others better than insecure people. Why? If we love ourselves, then we can love our neighbor as we love ourselves. Insecurity is more than just not feeling good about oneself.
Some people cannot be alone, they are fearful, and therefore they cling to anyone who comforts that fear of being alone or left out.
Some insecurity manifests in greed, hoarding, and the inability to be generous. If you give, then there is fear of not having enough.
Some insecurity manifests in settling for less than in relationships and treatment.
Some insecurity manifests in pushing oneself to the front of the line or excessive boasting.
Some insecurity manifests in promiscuity and unholy relationships; lust is false love. It may feel like love to people, but it leaves them empty.
Some insecurity manifests in unhealthy jealousy, comparison, or envy-they must have all the attention or blessing. If not, the internal deficit is triggered.
In the case of abuse, people treat other people the way they feel about themselves. It’s easy to talk down to you or slap you around because they hate themselves. The way people talk to you is often how they talk to themselves.
The critical spirit is rooted in insecurity-“I will nit pick everyone else to bypass dealing with my own issues.”
Manipulation and control are rooted in insecurity (fear). When we are secure in God, we have no need to try to control everything.
Racism and sexism are both deeply rooted in insecurity. Someone must be inferior to feel superior or good about one’s self or group.
God invites us to ditch insecurity and find identity in Him. Godly confidence differs from self confidence because it is rooted in who we are in God; created in His image, His workmanship, fearfully and wonderfully made, desired, cherished, without rival, uniquely loved, the object of God’s affection. God is not unstable, nor His feelings flakey. God is love 24/7 and always. When we live out of His love, our identity grows secure. Living loved by God enables us to give that love away to others and cease comparison, envy, or gross mistreatment of others. Why? We see our value and theirs.
There is a cure for insecurity and it’s found in God’s love; knowing God’s love, receiving God’s love, abiding in God’s love, being healed by God’s love, and living from God’s love. Our world is suffering from broken identity and insecurity. More than having a sin problem, there is an identity crisis. When we know who we are from the perspective of God, we cease mistreating others and ourselves. May you and I seek knowing the fullness of God’s love!!
Prayer: God show me who you are and who I am from your perspective. Heal my hurts, insecurities, and hidden fears. I want to live fully loved by you! Today I want to ditch insecurity and cling to godly confidence.